We lost one of our sisters, Blondell Chadwick aka YTer Kylahsmom1 has been called home. While I have never met her in real life we have exchanged fb, youtube, and email correspondence about our love of natural hair, what products we’re using and PJism.
I have started this post many times and continue to break out in tears. I do not handle death or loss well. I don’t like to deal with it. I don’t like to talk about it. But the one thing I can do is write. However I couldn’t find the right words to say. I spoke with one of my curlfriends Tanya, who told me to instead of writing about Blondell, to write about the connections I have made in the natural hair community and how deciding to go natural has forged friendships with women all over the world.
This is my personal story. Two years ago my husband and I separated and my entire world was turned up-side-down. I was an emotional mess and had no idea which way was up. But only a few months prior to separation I started Derby City Naturals. Having a blog gave me something to do and allowed me to feel like I was succeeding at something despite going through what I viewed as my greatest failure. It was during that season that I met some of my greatest friends, women who only knew me through natural hair, but they became my shoulders to cry on and daily doses of encouragement.
Since then I have met so many wonderful people. It started with natural hair, but it became so much more. Bloggers are real people. We do not do this for fame or money (what money?), we do this because we have a passion. I love that I am able to provide someone with assistance in going natural and helping them with their hair issues. It makes me happy every time I see a subbie who says “Hey thank you for that post you did on X it really helped me” or “I finally learned how to flat-twist my hair”. I don’t remember everyone by name, but I do remember their hair, lol :)
So in this natural hair community we laugh together at our silly hair mishaps. We rejoice together when we finally find the right product to make our curls pop. We celebrate marriages and babies being born. And we mourn the loss of our curlfriends when they have been called home. Please say a prayer for Blondell’s children as they have to cope with losing their mother, a pain I cannot imagine. Wrapping my arms around the community and sending all my love to her family, she was a fantastic lady.